Everyday in America, there are 4,780 women who suffer from a pregnancy loss. And even though no one’s feelings are exactly the same, you are all grieving. “Grieving” is when you miss the person who has passed away. It’s that empty feeling you get when you remember that they’re gone. You might have a lot of feelings such as angry, sadness, confusion, outburst of crying, or sleeping all the time. You might want to be with your friends and family, or spend some time alone.

Whatever you are feeling, it’s okay to feel that way. You may feel like you will hurt your families feelings if you talk about how you feel. The truth is that they would be happy if you were to share your feelings with them. You can also talk to a minister, someone at work, a counselor, or it even helps to talk to a friend. If you don’t feel like sharing your feelings, that’s okay too. Maybe you could write in a journal about how you feel.

Sometimes, people might say things to make you feel better but instead it hurts. Or, sometimes, people won’t say anything at all because they think talking about it will upset you. And remember, it’s okay to feel angry or sad. You can’t control what feelings you have. But you can control what you do with those feelings. Make positive choices to let those feelings out and take good care of yourself. Though this is no doubt a difficult time for you and your family, please try to remember to include your kids as much as possible.

It is very important that you talk to your family, especially your children about the child who has died. Many kids don’t know it’s okay to bring up the subject until they get the ok from the adults in their lives. Children of all ages have different ways of handling the situation. Your loss is one of the most difficult things you have gone through. You need to take care of yourself first and foremost or it will be impossible to help your child. If you are struggling with your own feelings, it might be a good idea to ask another adult you trust to be the support your child needs. If you or anyone in your family has symptoms of severe depression or extreme emotional problems, please seek professional help.